New guide helps men to help a mate
A new guide published for International Men's Day 2022 will make it easier for men to have conversations with mates who are doing it tough.
The theme for International Men's Day in Australia this year is "Celebrating Mateship," which aims to inspire more men to make time for #MakeTime4Mates.
One way men can "make time for mates" is by reaching out to mates who may be struggling in some way. With this in mind, the Australian Men's Health Forum (AMHF), produced the "How to Help a Mate Doing it Tough" guide, which is available to download here.
The guide has been created with support from men's health workers with extensive knowledge and experience of having conversations with men doing it tough. It features a simple ABC guided to helping a mate.
A: ASK + LISTEN
The key to helping a mate doing it tough is to ask good questions and listen like a pro. Many men are better at talking about things rather than feelings. So, ask what’s going on and give him space to talk. Just letting him get it off his chest can make a difference.
B: BUILD A PLAN
Most men doing it tough want to find solutions and fix things. Talking will help him make sense of stuff and get in a better head space. When he’s ready, help him think about the actions he can take. Asking good questions can help your mate find better solutions.
C: CONNECT TO HELP
For some men doing it tough, talking to a mate and getting it off their chest is all they need. Other men want to find their own solutions and take action. Sometimes men need a hand to get through stuff when they’re doing it tough.
The guide also includes tips on how to approach conversations with men, some suggestions on what to say and a few pointers on the warning signs that a mate might need your help. In addition, it provides advice on if and when to raise the question of male suicide.
WHEN TO ASK ABOUT SUICIDE?
Most men doing it tough are not at immediate risk of suicide. But it’s not uncommon for a mate who is struggling to think about suicide. The only way to find out is to ask.
If a mate is thinking of suicide, stay with him, keep him safe and get help.
If you are worried a mate is thinking of suicide and don’t know what to do, call a helpline and ask for advice. They will help you to help your mate.